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Why Adult Dating Is The Best Thing Since Sliced Bread

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Now don’t get me wrong – there is something about having a long term partner to cuddle at night and to give you a shoulder to cry on when life is bad that sometimes, a single girl desperately craves. That’s the thing about casual dating though… the thing that makes it better than sliced bread. You can still get that from a casual sex partner and I am testament to that.

If you’ve read around the blog, you’ll have probably found out about my story. I’m Rebecca, and the other writer behind the blog is Dan. We had a casual sex relationship for a year, then we dated for a year exclusively, then we realised it didn’t work and went back to casual sex again. That’s where we are at now, one year later.

We sleep together and we date other people. We see each other three times a week sometimes. Occasionally it’ll be more. Usually it’s two or three visits. I’ve never met his parents and he’s never met mine. I don’t know how much he earns, I don’t understand what he does for a living, I don’t know the state of his bank balance, and he doesn’t know any of that information about me. Occasionally he’ll stay the night and cuddle me to sleep, and I’ll be there to get on my knees and blow his troubles away… literally! 😉

People give adult dating a very bad name, mostly because they don’t know anything about it. Casual dating doesn’t mean sleeping with multiple people every week, racking up an enormous amount of sexual partners. Casual dating just means that you know you’re not really compatible with each other in the long term, but really good sex is something you don’t want to let go of. You are still free to find your respective happy-ever-after’s, and all round, everyone ends up being a winner. How can you really argue with that?

As long as you are both upfront right at the very beginning about what you are both looking for, you won’t have a problem. Dan and I made a deal right at the beginning of our ‘relationship’ – neither of us were looking for anything long-term. We were both newly out of fairly serious relationships and wanted to have a bit of fun. We met in a bar, had a one night stand, and found that we had some pretty damn good sex. I’m not his usual type and he’s definitely not mine but who cares? We don’t really see each other fully clothed and out of the bedroom!

So yeah – that’s why adult dating is the best thing since sliced bread… You get to eat your cake and eat it too!

If think that you are into casual sex dating or nsa sex dating there are some wonderful web sites to check out. We actually met through a foot fetish web site, but we’ve heard great things about Looking For Sex UK and Looking For Sex EU. Both sites are great from what we understand, but if you check out the European version, there is some seriously hot totty from all over Europe. Damn, those Italian and Spanish girls are gorgeous! And many of them live in the UK, so the chances of hooking up are excellent.

Who Really Does NSA Sex Dating

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I’ll admit, I definitely thought twice about signing up to an NSA sex dating website. It’s not the sort of thing you can do everyday, you know? Well, not if you’ve never done it before.

I am a thirty year old guy and I am a sex dater. I don’t have acne or braces on my teeth. I don’t wear glasses. I’m not ginger. I’m not overweight. I don’t have a funny laugh (I don’t think) and I don’t pick my toenails in bed. I’m a regular guy. In fact, I’m a hot guy. I know I’m hot because all the girls tell me I’m hot. And I work out. A lot.

I don’t really have time for a relationship. I work a lot of hours and I like to go to the gym in the evenings. I like Friday nights in bars with my boys, and I like a girl to fit in around my schedule, not the other way around.

I won the jackpot when I met Rebecca and I know I did. She’s a pretty cool chick. She doesn’t care when I want to watch the football instead of taking her out to a fancy restaurant. We have sex quite a lot but we don’t date. We don’t fight. We still screw other people.

We did try our hands at the dating game but that all ended about a year ago. She couldn’t handle my terrible sense of direction and I hated the way she spent money like it was going out of fashion. I left my underwear on her floor too often and she tripped over it once on the way to the bathroom. In fact, I’m pretty sure that was the night our relationship ended. We don’t work very well as a couple, you see? We’re great friends and we have a laugh and more than that, we have amazing sex. But that’s all there is to it.

I’ve met some pretty mental girls along the way. I’ve bumped into hot girls in bars and asked them back to mine for ‘no strings attached fun’. I;m almost one hundred percent sure I use those exact words too. At least fifty percent of them go crazy. They want my number and my last name. They want to become friends on Facebook. They want to know what I’m doing next Saturday night and whether or not I want to be their plus one for an evening event she has been invited to that her parents are going to be attending. Apparently, I’d look good in a tux.

I’ve met girls that don’t want to put out when I go track to their place, and I’ve had a lot of crossed wires. Apparently ‘no strings attached’ means something a little different to girls. They take it on as a challenge… Can they be the one to change us? Nine times out of ten, the answer is a resounding no.

The people you’d meet in the world of nsa sex dating are pretty similar to the people that you’d meet in ‘regular’ dating scenarios. There will be some crazy people and there will be some people that end up being good friends in your life. If you’re really lucky, like Rebecca and I, you’ll find someone that you can have great sex and a lot of fun with. Remember – just because the relationship didn’t work, doesn’t mean a no-strings-attached sex dating environment can’t arise out of it. You never know until you ask…

Where No Strings Dating Is Headed In The Next Five Years

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What started as something that only the coolest guys could ever manage has become somewhat of a dating hobby. No strings dating – an idea too ‘out of this world’ for many guys. Could it be, however, that this new style of sex dating could be slowly becoming the ‘norm’?

I’m a perfect example of a successful no strings dater. I very rarely get the uncomfortable crying-girl situation, because I’ve got a handle on it. I successfully juggle a few girls. There’s Rebecca of course, but there’s also a few more. Some of them we talk about, some about we don’t. That’s the thing with the weird sex relationship we have – we don’t really care that much about what the other is doing.

When I first started dipping my toes into the world of adult sex four years ago, on a web site called Local hookups. I had no real clue what I was doing. I basically closed my eyes and jumped in, filling out a quick membership form with my details and hastily uploading a fuzzy profile pic. I wouldn’t want anyone I knew to recognize me. You could never be too safe…. I had a girlfriend at the time. We were fighting a lot… You know how it goes guys, right?

I didn’t really know what I wanted but I knew sex was pretty high up on the list. Within a couple of hours of signing up, I had gotten talking to this girl called Sally who was a bit on the bigger side but promised me oral sex that I’d never forget. It would have been rude of me to turn that kind of offer down… so I didn’t. That night we met up in a local bar and she was right – her oral was out of this world. I’ll never forget her! 😉

It was a year later that I met Rebecca but in that time, I had racked up a pretty impressive number of girls and over the years, I noticed one thing. The people were getting ‘more normal’. Four years ago, there were a lot of nutters on the websites that I frequented. Last night I got talking to a 25 year old girl not far from where I lived who’d ex-fiance had cheated on, and just wanted a little something-something to see her through a lonely night. She was ‘normal’ – she didn’t cry, ask for my number, do anything too weird in bed, and didn’t look like a fish. She was just your average, run-of-the-mill, twenty-something girl.

The change in the caliber of these single women (or not so single) is refreshing. I’m finding that less and less chicks I meet are the crazy ones. I’m having more success. I’m definitely sleeping with more women. So with my last four years experience in mind, do you really want to know where no strings dating is headed in the next five years?

“Normality”

That’s right – it’s becoming the norm. It’s becoming something that all kids go through before they decide to settle down. Parents no longer from at their children for cheating on their so-called partners. It’s a “Tut, he’s young, what do you expect?” kind of situation these days. Do you see what I mean – it’s becoming normality.

Give it five years and I guarantee there will be more no strings dating websites out there than you could shake a stick at. Watch -you’ll see!

What Wikipedia Cant Tell You About Casual Dating

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I have been a casual dater for about five years. During that five years, I met a lovely guy called Dan and we’ve been sleeping together for about three of those years. We tried the relationship thing once for about a year, but decided to return to our natural ‘casual dating arrangements’ after realising the only thing we DID have in common was sex. Really great sex.

Between us, we have notched up a fair amount of partners. We’ve had our fair share of experiences, both good and bad. We’ve had good times and bad, and we feel that it is only fair to tell you about them. This is the sort of stuff that no internet site can warn you of…

Dan, for example, once met up with a really hot girl called Jaime. She really was beautiful – I’ve seen a picture of her. She had long blonde hair, massive big blue eyes, and a body to die for with massive NATURAL boobs… Or so Dan thinks. They met on an internet dating site specifically for casual daters and agreed to meet for a drink, which they did.

On this first meeting, she got drunk, poured her heart out, tried to have sex with him but vomited instead, and actually put Dan off using anyone from the internet for about six months. It was a traumatic experience for him. It turns out that it was her first time meeting someone off the internet and she was just trying to get back at her boyfriend for apparently snogging her best friend. It just goes to show – there REALLY are some nutters out there, and you do need to protect yourself whether you are a man or a woman!

Sexy young woman wearing lingerie.See that’s the kind of thing that Wikipedia can’t tell you – it can’t tell you about all of the crazy girls and stupid guys that get drunk, throw up on you, and only use you to try and get their own back on someone else. That sort of thing happens a lot. Far more often than it should do. It might be worth asking about their relationship history before you go barging in… Just saying.

Of course, there are good things to tell about casual dating too. It would be unfair of us to mention all of the bad experiences we have had. I should even things out by telling you about the guy that I met in a club once, took back to my place and not only did he give me a good screwing that any porn star would have been proud of, but he made me breakfast, kissed my forehead, told me I looked beautiful in the morning and then toddled off into the sunset, never to be seen again. I knew I couldn’t date him. We would never have a long term relationship. He had three kids. Children are a deal-breaker for me. I still got to experience the delights that he had to offer in the bedroom though… That’s something you’ll never find on Wikipedia! 😉

The Only Adult Fun Resource You Will Ever Need

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Let’s say you are a free thinking woman that feels empowered. She has a good job, has a good life, keeps good friends around her, and can afford good shoes. Why would you want to mess that up by throwing a bad man into the mix? And let’s face it, with your bad luck, a bad man is probably all you’re going to catch from the dating pond. You know one thing though – you sure could use a good, hard shag!

It’s been a while since you left your ex. That lying, cheating scumbag wasn’t worth the words that came out of his mouth – all empty promises and pathetic lies. You can’t be bothered with a man. You don’t want all that hassle in your life. Why not do what I did? Why not check out adult fun?

We’ve all been at the receiving end of a scumbag’s lies… Don’t be thinking you’re anything too special. I’ve dated even the ugliest of guys and they’ve ended up being just as much of a failure in the boyfriend department as the really hot ones. So I decided that love for was for suckers. Adult dating was the way forward. Meet them, drink with them, laugh with them, screw them, kick them out the door, never worry about them again. There’s no need to pick up his socks from all over your bedroom floor on a Saturday afternoon, and you’ll never need to pay his mobile phone bill because he couldn’t afford to this month. No, no – there’s none of that.

Only if you play by the rules…

If you want no strings attached, go get no strings attached. Don’t expect to change his mind or make him believe that you’re ‘the one’… It’s not going to happen. You’re never going to change his mind. You’re not his ‘one’, and even if you were, did you really believe you’d be persuading your ‘one’ that he should be with you?

No, didn’t think so.

Think of these men like cheap handbags. You know the ones I mean – the ones you buy to go with that one outfit for that one special occasion. It doesn’t matter if it breaks because you paid barely anything for it and you don’t even like it that much anyway. It just goes with that outfit you had to wear that night.

Who cares if these guys break? You paid barely anything for them – there’s been no emotional investment. You have your wicked way with them and kick them out when you’re done. No need for breakfast at Tiffany’s or tears because he didn’t call. You didn’t really want him to call. You don’t need him to call, you have another date with a buff fireman later on tonight anyway…

You’ll be surprised at empowering adult dating and casual sex feels. You’re in control and you are i charge! It’s probably the first time you’ve ever been in charge in any relationship. EVER. So why not make full use of it? Let the moment take you where you need it to go and then move onto the next one. Empowerment is the best feeling about it!

The Dummies Guide To Adult Swingers

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Getting into swinging is easier said than done, especially if you’ve never looked into it before. It might seem like the hottest idea in the world but it’s going to be nothing more than frustrating if you don’t jump into it with all the information. This is why we decided to produce the dummies’ guide to adult swingers!

We knew we wanted to try our hand at swinging. It was on my ‘bucket list’ and when I brought the topic up with Dan, he agreed that it was something that he had always wanted to try. That’s the coolest thing about our casual dating ‘relationship’ – we know that we can push more boundaries than ‘regular’ couples!

Why adult swingers?

The first thing you’ll need to figure out before you head out and swap partners with another couple is why you want to do it in the first place. Many people think swinging will help a flailing relationship by adding some much needed sizzle and spice to a boring sex life, but if you’re just clutching at straws, finding any way to make things better, you’re doing it for the wrong reasons.

Swinging is something that will leather make or break you – it takes a special kind of person to be able to watch their other half screwing someone else. It’s definitely something that NONE of my ex-boyfriends would have been happy to try… not that I would have wanted to swing with them anyway!

Fantasy fulfillment?

adult contactsOne of the biggest reasons why people choose to try their hand at sex with other adult swingers is to fulfill a certain kind of fantasy. Do you want to have sex with one other person? Do you want to be having sex with that person while their partner happily pummels your partner? Do you want to have sex with more than one other person? Is it a threesome you want to finally tick off the box, or a foursome? Perhaps even an orgy? Do you just want to meet a hot guy or girl and just sleep with them because you wanted to, with no questions asked? Getting those hottest fantasies ticked off is one of the best ever benefits of getting into the world of adult swingers. I’m running out now… I’ll just need to come up with kinkier, hotter fantasies! 😉

What are guidelines?

If you’re doing it as a couple, come up with your boundaries right from the very beginning. Is he allowed to penetrate another girl? What about another guy, if the moment takes him? How far are you allowed to go with another guy? Or again, if the moment takes you, another girl? Is another man allowed to thrust inside you? These are boundaries you won’t have thought of right at the beginning but once you get into it, you can sense they are boundaries that are either going to make or break your adult swingers experience.

Use your head!

You’re on the internet so always remember that the person you are talking to might not be exactly who they say they are. It’s easy to hide behind a fake persona with online adult dating, so go into things with an open mind. Above all else, remember to always stay safe. If you don’t want to do something, just say no.

By the way, in case you missed it, one of the best adult swingers websites in the UK is Find Dogging. It’s been around for donkey’s years and is as popular as ever for adult swinging in the UK.

It’s also slightly off topic, but if you like swinging, you’ll probably like dogging. Wonderful Wiki explains dogging here. Of course, this practice began in the UK – where else – and is now trending in Europe, USA, Canada and Australia. It’s a bit like wife swapping but in secluded places, in cars. We haven’t tried dogging yet, but when we do, we will let you know about it! In the meantime, from our research, we have found Local Dogging, which is one of the best sites for dogging in the UK. Check it out!

The 5 Biggest Casual Sex Dating Blunders

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Let’s face it – casual sex dating is exactly the same as ‘regular’ dating in some respects. You can make the same mistakes, tell the wrong jokes, say the wrong thing, etc. In fact, how many of you have had more catastrophic first dates than great ones? Or even good ones?

As casual daters ourselves, we feel that it is only fair to you that we share the most common casual dating mistakes that we’ve found in our journey… Some are bad, some are really bad, and some are so ridiculous you won’t even believe you just read that.

Are you ready?

1 – Men hope she’ll make the first move.

In the world of casual dating, you’re probably both aware of where you stand already, especially if you met on a casual sex dating website. What’s the point in ‘hoping’ she’ll make the first move? The fact that she came out to meet you says enough – the fact that she’s laughing at your jokes and fluttering her eyelashes at you means that you are the bigger idiot for not reading the signs. The signs are there for a reason.

Make the first move, move in for the kiss… She’ll soon tell you if it’s all too soon. As long as you’re not trying to wash her makeup off with your tongue within ten minutes of meeting her, you’re probably doing alright.

2 – Men hoping she’ll pay.

OK, this is just rude. I know it’s the world of equality but if you don’t even at least to pay for the first date, you look cheap. No one wants to take home and screw the cheap guy. What part of cheap sounds attractive? Not much! If she really puts up that much of a fight, fine let her pay. But at least offer. And mean it!

3 – Not having a plan.

Women like men that know how to make a decision. Women find men that have their s*** together attractive. Most women would rather go for the smart guy that looks confident and knows what he wants out of life and how to get there, then a penniless street urchin with ripped jeans. It’s a ‘security’ thing. Most women don’t even need security; it’s just a built-in thing.

If you go without a plan, be prepared that you probably won’t make it into her little black book.

4 – Putting on an act.

Firstly, what’s the point? You’re there to have a good time, aren’t you? You’re there to find a guy or girl, take them home and have a night of fun, passion, and extremely good sex. What’s the point in putting on an act? You don’t really have any intentions of dating this person so who really cares what she or thinks of you? You’re both there for the same thing… That’s common enough ground, isn’t it?

5 – Trying to make plans.

Before guys say that girls are worse than guys for it, that’s total crap. Ask any woman that like to casually date how many of their partners have gotten too serious too soon and most of them will say A LOT! Men as well as women are feeling the pressure to settle down and have that happy ever after these days. Men WANT marriage these days. They want kids too. Most of them are lying if they say they don’t. Trust us on that one!

But, for guys as well as girls, don’t make plans. The person you are in bed with is there casually. They don’t want to meet your parents. They don’t want to be your plus one at a friends wedding four months from now. After a while of casually dating this person may that relationship take place but if you don’t know their last name, birthday or where they hope to see themselves in five years time, there’s a good chance you’re trying to make plans too soon.

How Casual Dating Isn’t As Bad As You Think

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When Dan and I first started sleeping together, casual dating was hardly the ‘to-do’ thing. It was seen as seedy and desperate. Two strangers meeting up with each other for casual sex because they were too ugly / demanding / clingy / desperate to make a ‘real’ relationship work. Of course, three or four years ago when we started toying with the idea of adult dating – as in no strings attached, there were more weirdos than normal people but these days, it’s a flourishing market! That just goes to show by itself that casual dating is an idea that is on the up.

Not just for desperate saddos that can’t get a date the ‘regular’ way, casual dating is a type of dating that suits anyone. If you’re newly single and not looking for anything serious, why not look up local hotties to drive your ex wild with jealousy with? Ooops, how comes you and your ex have happened to bump into each other in the same pub while you’re out with your date for the night. who cares if you’re never going to see him again, he looks good as your arm candy, and you know your exacan’t stand the fact that you’re now ‘dating’ someone with bigger muscles than you…

OK so I sound a little nuts but I must admit, I’ve done this once. Or twice… Just twice, I promise!

Ecstacy Of LoveIf you’re not a mental bunny boiler than wants to exact revenge on a guilty ex, and just don’t have time for a ‘real’ relationship in between trying to get your educated sorted, progressing in your career, or just having a social life on top of your work commitments, casual dating is perfect. Imagine being able to go online, pick what guy you want, start up a conversation, and arrange to meet him the very next night in a local bar when you know you’ll have a couple of hours to spare before you come home from work and need to shoot out to the gym / your second job / a family party / etc.

Does it make you a harlot? No. Does it make you smart? Yes!

It’s just like dialing a pizza. You’d order a take-out meal because it’s convenient and tastes delicious, why wouldn’t you order a man? 😉

The thing with casual dating is that you never know where it could take you. I met Dan and I think I was lucky to meet Dan because even though we did try the dating thing, our no-strings relationship was strong enough for us to part ways in a ‘relationship’ sense, but still remained sexual friends. I still call him up on Friday night’s when I’m drunk and I need someone to help ‘sort me out’, and he still calls me for his 3am booty call when he doesn’t pull anyone better in the club on a night out with the boys. It’s honest, reliable and smart – isn’t that how a relationship is meant to be anyway? 😉

How Adult Dating Sites Can Get You What Your Heart Desires

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“Can’t we just be friends?”

The one line that a girl can use that fills her potential date’s head with absolute dread. Have they just been friend-zoned? Are you serious? You’ve been dating this chick for about three weeks and the one night you think you’re gonna get laid, she pulls the friend-line on you?

Not cool girls! Not cool AT ALL!

It’s Dan by the way, although you’d probably already guessed that. Rebecca and I were just talking about the dreaded friend zone the other day, so I thought I’d tell you how to get around it…

Never EVER get friend-zoned again!

Adult dating sites are pretty much the exact opposite of what the friend-zone represents. You get to be ‘friends’ with these girls, but you still get to take them home and bang them too. That pretty blonde that you thought was just out of your league isn’t going to put you in the friend zone because you aren’t hot enough / smart enough / rich enough to keep her interested. She’s going to take you home, screw you, and kick you out instead. Isn’t that hotter than lusting after a pretty blonde you know you’ll NEVER get?

When you sign up to these casual sex dating websites, you do so because you know you’re going to meet a girl that has the same idea as you. You browse the members looking for a hottie because you know, within a couple of days (sometimes hours), you’ll have the first meet arranged and you’ll be looking forward to the excitement of sex with a new person – not knowing what they are going to feel like, taste like, react to your touch like… It’s exciting because you don’t know what will happen. That’s half the fun of it. Anything could happen!

When you’re done with these girls, you simply move on to the next one. Then you have new and exciting sex all over again because once more, you never know what could arise. One minute you’re dreaming about climaxing all over that busty brunette’s chest, and the next you are pounding away at her from behind, wondering how you could be as lucky as you are.

There’s no friend-zone here!

Adult dating sites are perfect for busy that always get F-bombed. I’ve been placed in my own little zone of no-sex on more than one occasion, so never think that it is just you it happens to. Once you’re in that zone, there’s no getting out of it either. There’s no clawing your way back to anywhere near close to her bedroom. Definitely nowhere close enough to getting her panties off. What’s the point in going through a couple of weeks of effort only to be dubbed ‘too nice’? There’s no point. It’s time to face facts and do things the right way – the adult dating site way.

Your manhood will thank you for it! You’ve been jerking off for far too long!