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Where No Strings Dating Is Headed In The Next Five Years

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What started as something that only the coolest guys could ever manage has become somewhat of a dating hobby. No strings dating – an idea too ‘out of this world’ for many guys. Could it be, however, that this new style of sex dating could be slowly becoming the ‘norm’?

I’m a perfect example of a successful no strings dater. I very rarely get the uncomfortable crying-girl situation, because I’ve got a handle on it. I successfully juggle a few girls. There’s Rebecca of course, but there’s also a few more. Some of them we talk about, some about we don’t. That’s the thing with the weird sex relationship we have – we don’t really care that much about what the other is doing.

When I first started dipping my toes into the world of adult sex four years ago, on a web site called casualsex.uk.com I had no real clue what I was doing. I basically closed my eyes and jumped in, filling out a quick membership form with my details and hastily uploading a fuzzy profile pic. I wouldn’t want anyone I knew to recognize me. You could never be too safe…. I had a girlfriend at the time. We were fighting a lot… You know how it goes guys, right?

I didn’t really know what I wanted but I knew sex was pretty high up on the list. Within a couple of hours of signing up, I had gotten talking to this girl called Sally who was a bit on the bigger side but promised me oral sex that I’d never forget. It would have been rude of me to turn that kind of offer down… so I didn’t. That night we met up in a local bar and she was right – her oral was out of this world. I’ll never forget her! 😉

It was a year later that I met Rebecca but in that time, I had racked up a pretty impressive number of girls and over the years, I noticed one thing. The people were getting ‘more normal’. Four years ago, there were a lot of nutters on the websites that I frequented. Last night I got talking to a 25 year old girl not far from where I lived who’d ex-fiance had cheated on, and just wanted a little something-something to see her through a lonely night. She was ‘normal’ – she didn’t cry, ask for my number, do anything too weird in bed, and didn’t look like a fish. She was just your average, run-of-the-mill, twenty-something girl.

The change in the caliber of these single women (or not so single) is refreshing. I’m finding that less and less chicks I meet are the crazy ones. I’m having more success. I’m definitely sleeping with more women. So with my last four years experience in mind, do you really want to know where no strings dating is headed in the next five years?

“Normality”

That’s right – it’s becoming the norm. It’s becoming something that all kids go through before they decide to settle down. Parents no longer from at their children for cheating on their so-called partners. It’s a “Tut, he’s young, what do you expect?” kind of situation these days. Do you see what I mean – it’s becoming normality.

Give it five years and I guarantee there will be more no strings dating websites out there than you could shake a stick at. Watch -you’ll see!

The Only Adult Fun Resource You Will Ever Need

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Let’s say you are a free thinking woman that feels empowered. She has a good job, has a good life, keeps good friends around her, and can afford good shoes. Why would you want to mess that up by throwing a bad man into the mix? And let’s face it, with your bad luck, a bad man is probably all you’re going to catch from the dating pond. You know one thing though – you sure could use a good, hard shag!

It’s been a while since you left your ex. That lying, cheating scumbag wasn’t worth the words that came out of his mouth – all empty promises and pathetic lies. You can’t be bothered with a man. You don’t want all that hassle in your life. Why not do what I did? Why not check out adult fun?

We’ve all been at the receiving end of a scumbag’s lies… Don’t be thinking you’re anything too special. I’ve dated even the ugliest of guys and they’ve ended up being just as much of a failure in the boyfriend department as the really hot ones. So I decided that love for was for suckers. Adult dating was the way forward. Meet them, drink with them, laugh with them, screw them, kick them out the door, never worry about them again. There’s no need to pick up his socks from all over your bedroom floor on a Saturday afternoon, and you’ll never need to pay his mobile phone bill because he couldn’t afford to this month. No, no – there’s none of that.

Only if you play by the rules…

If you want no strings attached, go get no strings attached. Don’t expect to change his mind or make him believe that you’re ‘the one’… It’s not going to happen. You’re never going to change his mind. You’re not his ‘one’, and even if you were, did you really believe you’d be persuading your ‘one’ that he should be with you?

No, didn’t think so.

Think of these men like cheap handbags. You know the ones I mean – the ones you buy to go with that one outfit for that one special occasion. It doesn’t matter if it breaks because you paid barely anything for it and you don’t even like it that much anyway. It just goes with that outfit you had to wear that night.

Who cares if these guys break? You paid barely anything for them – there’s been no emotional investment. You have your wicked way with them and kick them out when you’re done. No need for breakfast at Tiffany’s or tears because he didn’t call. You didn’t really want him to call. You don’t need him to call, you have another date with a buff fireman later on tonight anyway…

You’ll be surprised at empowering adult dating and casual sex feels. You’re in control and you are i charge! It’s probably the first time you’ve ever been in charge in any relationship. EVER. So why not make full use of it? Let the moment take you where you need it to go and then move onto the next one. Empowerment is the best feeling about it!

How Casual Dating Isn’t As Bad As You Think

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When Dan and I first started sleeping together, casual dating was hardly the ‘to-do’ thing. It was seen as seedy and desperate. Two strangers meeting up with each other for casual sex because they were too ugly / demanding / clingy / desperate to make a ‘real’ relationship work. Of course, three or four years ago when we started toying with the idea of adult dating – as in no strings attached, there were more weirdos than normal people but these days, it’s a flourishing market! That just goes to show by itself that casual dating is an idea that is on the up.

Not just for desperate saddos that can’t get a date the ‘regular’ way, casual dating is a type of dating that suits anyone. If you’re newly single and not looking for anything serious, why not look up local hotties to drive your ex wild with jealousy with? Ooops, how comes you and your ex have happened to bump into each other in the same pub while you’re out with your date for the night. who cares if you’re never going to see him again, he looks good as your arm candy, and you know your exacan’t stand the fact that you’re now ‘dating’ someone with bigger muscles than you…

OK so I sound a little nuts but I must admit, I’ve done this once. Or twice… Just twice, I promise!

Ecstacy Of LoveIf you’re not a mental bunny boiler than wants to exact revenge on a guilty ex, and just don’t have time for a ‘real’ relationship in between trying to get your educated sorted, progressing in your career, or just having a social life on top of your work commitments, casual dating is perfect. Imagine being able to go online, pick what guy you want, start up a conversation, and arrange to meet him the very next night in a local bar when you know you’ll have a couple of hours to spare before you come home from work and need to shoot out to the gym / your second job / a family party / etc.

Does it make you a harlot? No. Does it make you smart? Yes!

It’s just like dialing a pizza. You’d order a take-out meal because it’s convenient and tastes delicious, why wouldn’t you order a man? 😉

The thing with casual dating is that you never know where it could take you. I met Dan and I think I was lucky to meet Dan because even though we did try the dating thing, our no-strings relationship was strong enough for us to part ways in a ‘relationship’ sense, but still remained sexual friends. I still call him up on Friday night’s when I’m drunk and I need someone to help ‘sort me out’, and he still calls me for his 3am booty call when he doesn’t pull anyone better in the club on a night out with the boys. It’s honest, reliable and smart – isn’t that how a relationship is meant to be anyway? 😉