Getting into swinging is easier said than done, especially if you’ve never looked into it before. It might seem like the hottest idea in the world but it’s going to be nothing more than frustrating if you don’t jump into it with all the information. This is why we decided to produce the dummies’ guide to adult swingers!
We knew we wanted to try our hand at swinging. It was on my ‘bucket list’ and when I brought the topic up with Dan, he agreed that it was something that he had always wanted to try. That’s the coolest thing about our casual dating ‘relationship’ – we know that we can push more boundaries than ‘regular’ couples!
Why adult swingers?
The first thing you’ll need to figure out before you head out and swap partners with another couple is why you want to do it in the first place. Many people think swinging will help a flailing relationship by adding some much needed sizzle and spice to a boring sex life, but if you’re just clutching at straws, finding any way to make things better, you’re doing it for the wrong reasons.
Swinging is something that will leather make or break you – it takes a special kind of person to be able to watch their other half screwing someone else. It’s definitely something that NONE of my ex-boyfriends would have been happy to try… not that I would have wanted to swing with them anyway!
One of the biggest reasons why people choose to try their hand at sex with other adult swingers is to fulfill a certain kind of fantasy. Do you want to have sex with one other person? Do you want to be having sex with that person while their partner happily pummels your partner? Do you want to have sex with more than one other person? Is it a threesome you want to finally tick off the box, or a foursome? Perhaps even an orgy? Do you just want to meet a hot guy or girl and just sleep with them because you wanted to, with no questions asked? Getting those hottest fantasies ticked off is one of the best ever benefits of getting into the world of adult swingers. I’m running out now… I’ll just need to come up with kinkier, hotter fantasies! 😉
What are guidelines?
If you’re doing it as a couple, come up with your boundaries right from the very beginning. Is he allowed to penetrate another girl? What about another guy, if the moment takes him? How far are you allowed to go with another guy? Or again, if the moment takes you, another girl? Is another man allowed to thrust inside you? These are boundaries you won’t have thought of right at the beginning but once you get into it, you can sense they are boundaries that are either going to make or break your adult swingers experience.
Use your head!
You’re on the internet so always remember that the person you are talking to might not be exactly who they say they are. It’s easy to hide behind a fake persona with online adult dating, so go into things with an open mind. Above all else, remember to always stay safe. If you don’t want to do something, just say no.
By the way, in case you missed it, one of the best adult swingers websites in the UK is ClubXUK.com. It’s been around for donkey’s years and is as popular as ever for adult swinging in the UK.
It’s also slightly off topic, but if you like swinging, you’ll probably like dogging. Wonderful Wiki explains dogging here. Of course, this practice began in the UK – where else – and is now trending in Europe, USA, Canada and Australia. It’s a bit like wife swapping but in secluded places, in cars. We haven’t tried dogging yet, but when we do, we will let you know about it! In the meantime, from our research, we have found localdogging.com, which is one of the best sites for dogging in the UK. Check it out!